Maybe “discuss” is a better word than debate.A problem with language especially English, is it does not always get our thoughts across properly. We have to find a word that we think explains how we feel. The problem is that I can think the word means one thing and someone else can think it means another.
So to be clear, I am not at all saying that I want everyone to agree with me. You are 100% correct stating that iron sharpens iron so we should express different views as that is how we learn. So what is my definition of "Debating" which may be entirely wrong? It's like the purpose is to disagree with the other person even if you kind of do agree. You know like debating in school where they give you a side to take whether you agree with it or not. I know of people in my family that will debate over almost anything you say. Why? Because they just love debating!
Anyway, I think I will stop saying that I am not debating and just stick with saying "It's just my opinion".