These two verses keep bothering me

[Holy999]

When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.

jesus answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’a 5and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’b? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

 

[Kaatje]

When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.

jesus answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’a 5and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’b? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

Those two verses are not contradictary.

God, in His infinite wisdom, has given us rules - laws - that are good and beneficial for us.
One of them says, a man and a woman that are given to each other in holy matrimony, become one flesh.
But this is only during our lifetime. "Until death do us part".

After death, we will live in a new reality. In heaven we will have no need to marry or have children.
We will live forever. The old things‭ are passed away‭‭; behold‭‭, all things‭ are become‭‭ new‭.‭

If you want to read more about this, here is a good source:

Will there be marriage in heaven? | GotQuestions.org

Will there be marriage in heaven? If no one is married in heaven, what will my relationship with my spouse be like?

www.gotquestions.org

 

[Holy999]

Those two verses are not contradictary.

God, in His infinite wisdom, has given us rules - laws - that are good and beneficial for us.
One of them says, a man and a woman that are given to each other in holy matrimony, become one flesh.
But this is only during our lifetime. "Until death do us part".

After death, we will live in a new reality. In heaven we will have no need to marry or have children.
We will live forever. The old things‭ are passed away‭‭; behold‭‭, all things‭ are become‭‭ new‭.‭

If you want to read more about this, here is a good source:

Will there be marriage in heaven? | GotQuestions.org

Will there be marriage in heaven? If no one is married in heaven, what will my relationship with my spouse be like?

www.gotquestions.org

i sorta agree in some sense we are citizens of heaven but are relationships kept? i mean will my father be my father and mother be my mother and my marriage partner be a relationship

 

[Kaatje]

Yes, we will know our friends and family members in heaven, and we will be known.

Our ability to recognize people in the afterlife is suggested in several passages of Scripture. At the transfiguration of Christ, Moses and Elijah made an appearance, and they were recognizable (Matthew 17:3–4). Though they had departed this world centuries prior, both Moses and Elijah remained distinct persons who had not lost their identity. In Luke 16:19–31, Abraham, Lazarus, and the rich man are all recognizable after death. King Saul recognized Samuel’s description given by the witch of Endor when she summoned Samuel from the realm of the dead (1 Samuel 28:8–17). And, when David’s young son died, David declared, “I will go to him, but he will not return to me” (2 Samuel 12:23). David’s words imply that he believed he would recognize his son in heaven. In all these examples, the Bible seems to indicate that, after death, we will still be recognizable to each other.

The Bible declares that, when we arrive in heaven, we will “be like him [Jesus], for we shall see him as he is” (1 John 3:2). Just as our earthly bodies were of the first man, Adam, so will our resurrection bodies be like Christ’s glorious body (1 Corinthians 15:47; Philippians 3:21). “And just as we have borne the image of the earthly man, so shall we bear the image of the heavenly man....For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality” (1 Corinthians 15:49, 53). Jesus was recognizable after His resurrection (John 20:16, 20; 21:12; 1 Corinthians 15:4–7), so it stands to reason that we also will be recognizable in our glorified bodies.

Being able to see our loved ones is a glorious aspect of heaven. What a pleasure it will be to reunite with our loved ones and worship God with them in His presence for all eternity!

Will we be able to see and know our friends and family members in heaven? Will we know each other in heaven? | GotQuestions.org

Will we be able to see and know our friends and family members in heaven? Will we know each other in heaven? Will I be reunited with my loved ones when I arrive in heaven?

www.gotquestions.org

 

[RonJohnSilver]

I've pondered this also. No marriage in Heaven means, as stated in the GotQuestions piece, no procreation and, presumably, no sex, at least not for procreation. And you can also go a bit further...no romance, no dating, etc. But some scholars say that we'll maintain our sexuality, that is, I'll be male and my wife will be female. But, if there's no procreation, sex, romance, etc., then why? Why not just make all of us the same? It's just hard to put earthly relationships into a heavenly context. Where I wind up is that God knows best and whatever He has put together will be far more pleasurable than what we have here. If we could see exactly what God has in store for us, then we'd all be too anxious to leave here.

 

[mattfivefour]

Where I wind up is that God knows best and whatever He has put together will be far more pleasurable than what we have here.

Exactly.

From my study of scripture, I believe that there will be no marriage or individual marriage relationships in Heaven because it will be unnecessary. Relationships exist on earth for companionship and mutual benefit. Family relationships exist for protection, provision and socialization. The ideal family equips the child to grow into a caring, responsible adult. God created marriage to teach us human beings to live entirely for another, loving and cherishing another human being more than oneself. According to Ephesians 5, the ideal marriage forms a picture of the relationship Christ has with us, the husband demonstrating the love and care of Christ toward his wife; and the wife demonstrating the love and honor of Christ toward her husband. Thus the two form a perfect and stable environment of love for those whom they bring into the family through birth or adoption.

But none of this will be necessary in Heaven. We, individually and collectively, will be married to Christ in a perfect, intimate, harmonious relationship. We will be one with God (1 Corinthians 6:17; John 14:20) in spiritual union (John 17:20-23), though not of essence for there is only one God (Deuteronomy 6:4). But we will be one with Him in the sense that we will then know perfectly, even as we are now known by Him (1 Corinthians 13:12), and we will in fact be like Him (1 John 3:2), seated with Him in Heavenly places, ruling and reigning with Him (Ephesians 2:6; Revelation 3:21, 20:4).

In fact, every single person who enters Heaven will enjoy that same perfect union with God. Which means that, if each of us is in perfect union with God, we will unavoidably be in perfect union with each other. Just as we are with God. There will be nothing that can separate us. The union which we had with our spouse on earth --as perfect and delightful as it may be-- will pale by comparison to the union we will have with God and every other soul in Heaven. What an incredible thought!

In no way does this mean that our relationship with our earthly spouse will be less in Heaven. Not at all. There will be no loss: only gain. Our relationship with our spouse will be perfect there. Far, far greater than anything we have known on earth. But we will have that same absolutely perfect relationship with every other single soul in existence, the same perfect relationship we will have with God. Can you imagine? Everything will be perfect. Including our relationships. Every single one. Total union of heart and mind! Perfect. Forever.

Truly our joy will be full!!!

Search the Scriptures. Don't try to impose what we know of existence on them. Simply let them speak to you and see if you do not find hints of what I have just said.

But that said, how that will feel, how we will function, how we will be separate souls yet united in perfection, with no trace of sadness but only eternal happiness? I do not know. I cannot imagine such an existence. It is beyond my ability to conceive. But I do know this-- it will be far, far greater; far, far more exciting; far, far more wonderful; far, far more fulfilling than anything you or I could ever imagine. Glory to God!!!

Even so, come Lord Jesus.